I know I haven't seen you all or posted for a few days. Actually, now that I'm looking at the dates--five. Five days. Like I said before in my intro, blogging is not something I'm used to, so even though I was updated once a day at one point, I fell off. Oh well.
First off, Happy Holidays to you and yours. I hope that you had an awesome time with friends/family/loved ones/etc., and that good fortune follows you into the new year.
Part of the reason why I haven't been updating is because I had to work last week :\ It's a necessary evil, so I try not to complain. I got lots of extra hours and so my next check is going to be awesome. I didn't get any presents so I'm going to spend money on myself. Sounds fun? Yes, because it is.
I went to a Christmas party on Christmas eve, and earlier today, I gave out a bunch of gifts to random people on Gaia that I didn't know, so I felt good about that.
As it is no mystery that I live in Detroit, Michigan--you can see it on my profile if you click on it--I'm announcing that Curtis, the same guy who helped me explain why Mother Russia was so excellent, suggested a great restaurant to visit. It's called Shalimar. Located in Ann Arbor, the food there took our breath away. The service was great too. Very professional and polite. I'm the type of person who likes talking to the waiters and waitresses and joking with them when I go out, but although there wasn't too much of that there it was a good time all the same. An outing is always better when you do it with friends.
Anyway, I had a good time, and I gladly recommend the restaurant if anyone is ever in Michigan.
Saturday, December 26, 2009
Sunday, December 20, 2009
New Gaia Avatar ^_^
For those of you who know what Gaia is, there's no need to explain.
However, for those of you who don't, I'm going to take this lack of inspiration as an opportunity to fill in the void with my new avatar ^_^
Gaia is an online community where people waste time talking to each other and playing games, with the option to customize cute little avatars that represent their account's activities around the site. Some people like it, some people don't--I'm not going to worry about anyone's opinion on the matter so there.
I simply wanted to show off my new avatar~!
Friday, December 18, 2009
The Princess and the Frog
I went to go see this movie yesterday, and the day before. I thought that it was nice. It was a lovely return for Disney animated studios, who have been caught up with using the latest technology to devote their time toward 3D and claymation creations. I'm not going to say that Disney's other movies were lackluster or bad--in fact, they still held the "Disney spirit" that we're so used to--they just weren't animated, and if you grew up in the eighties or nineties, animation WAS Disney.
Anyway, I had nothing to complain about. Standard Disney storyplot, great art, likeable characters and moving scenes made this a good movie. I wish that I could go on and on and on about it, but the truth is I think that the sign of a great movie is not wanting to say much about it, so that other people can see it. Suffice it to say that The Princess and the Frog was an excellent movie, and I wouldn't mind going to see it two or three more times if enough people wanted to go. I'll definitely be getting this on DVD--from an actual store! Yes!--and paying for what I want to get, while I'm at it.
Go support Disney and go see the movie~!
Thursday, December 17, 2009
4chan experiment
Now, I'm not one to go to 4chan for anything, but while discussing the P4 (Pokemon Profile Pic Phenomenon), a friend of mine, Pete, says to me, "Well, if you go on 4chan and post a topic called Alternate Pokemon Pics, you'll get a ton of responses!"
I decided to try this out, just to see.
I got at least 42 responses before the thread 404'd. Hilarious. Someone actually bumped the thread because they thought it was cool. I was laughing my ass off, and I did get some pictures that I wanted.
For those of you who don't know what 4chan is: 4chan
For those of you who don't know what 404'd is: 404
WARNING: Don't do anything the page tells you to, especially on the 404 page. Read it, laugh, and move on.
That is all.
I decided to try this out, just to see.
I got at least 42 responses before the thread 404'd. Hilarious. Someone actually bumped the thread because they thought it was cool. I was laughing my ass off, and I did get some pictures that I wanted.
For those of you who don't know what 4chan is: 4chan
For those of you who don't know what 404'd is: 404
WARNING: Don't do anything the page tells you to, especially on the 404 page. Read it, laugh, and move on.
That is all.
Monday, December 14, 2009
Pokemon Profile Pic Phenomenon
So, if you're on facebook--or perhaps some other social networks like Twitter or Livejournal--surely you're aware that December is official "make your profile pic a pokemon" month, or something like that?
I just found out today.
I like facebook and all, but I typically don't follow those types of trends--for example, when people started "grid tags", taking an image with lots of small photos in it and tagging people as characters or phrases that describe them, etc.--I never did that. Nor was I the type to do most of those forwarding games and such.
But I have to say that every once in a while, every blue moon, there's a time where the people that you hang out with make that sort of thing fun. This pokemon profile thing is one of them. Now, I'm friends with all sorts of people from all walks of life--those that I'm closest to have more in common with me, for sure--and even among the ones that I don't speak to that often, we ALL have one thing in common:
We've all played pokemon at some point in our lives.
There are going to be some that say that this is stupid, that this makes no sense, that we're grown and blah blah blah. I don't want to be a mindless zombie with little to no memory or enjoyment of my childhood. I liked my childhood, dammit, and I'm going to keep enjoying it even from an adult perspective. Also, I want to know what my friends would pick. For those of you who want to know: My choice was Pikachu. He's not really my favorite, but I like playing him on Smash Brothers, so I figure why not. Playing with him on Melee is really what made him my preferred pokemon, lol.
Now, I'm going to bombard you with images of pokemon in general, so I hope that you like.
I just found out today.
I like facebook and all, but I typically don't follow those types of trends--for example, when people started "grid tags", taking an image with lots of small photos in it and tagging people as characters or phrases that describe them, etc.--I never did that. Nor was I the type to do most of those forwarding games and such.
But I have to say that every once in a while, every blue moon, there's a time where the people that you hang out with make that sort of thing fun. This pokemon profile thing is one of them. Now, I'm friends with all sorts of people from all walks of life--those that I'm closest to have more in common with me, for sure--and even among the ones that I don't speak to that often, we ALL have one thing in common:
We've all played pokemon at some point in our lives.
There are going to be some that say that this is stupid, that this makes no sense, that we're grown and blah blah blah. I don't want to be a mindless zombie with little to no memory or enjoyment of my childhood. I liked my childhood, dammit, and I'm going to keep enjoying it even from an adult perspective. Also, I want to know what my friends would pick. For those of you who want to know: My choice was Pikachu. He's not really my favorite, but I like playing him on Smash Brothers, so I figure why not. Playing with him on Melee is really what made him my preferred pokemon, lol.
Now, I'm going to bombard you with images of pokemon in general, so I hope that you like.
Sunday, December 13, 2009
Death by Cookie Fragmentation
This message is inspired by two friends named Don and Ashley.
Is such a thing possible? If we put cookie dough in a grenade instead, does that mean that we could possibly have stumbled on a way to bake cookies with Human incubation? Perhaps Human bodies are like little ovens. The body would absorb all of the heat from the impact, of course. The cookie dough would rise and cook on the inside, and when people collect the remains of their fallen warriors, at least they will know that cookies can be salvaged. Everyone loves cookies.
And if the world loves cookies, we could offer cookies for peace--we could craft a world of cookies. Where cookies can be traded as currency, and the richest men and women of society are bakers with their own unique style. Wasting or eating too many cookies at once--which can also be considered wasting cookies--can result in death. Hording too many cookies instead of eating them can be considered an act of conspiracy, as all cookies should be eaten in their own time~!
It will be a lovely world. I will shape it. Join me.
We have cookies.
I think we've stumbled onto a great idea here, Don. Alert the Government.
The Clouded Leopard
I completely drew a blank about what on earth to write about today, so I'm taking one of my favorite animals and putting a couple pics of it up here. I was discussing them with a friend today--she wanted information about them for an RP--so I looked up some awesome information on them. I like Clouded Leopards. They're cute. Take a look.
You could easily look them up on wikipedia and find fairly accurate information on them. If something else pops up in my head today, I'll be sure to add it, but this is about it. Sundays are always slow for me, so... See ya~!
You could easily look them up on wikipedia and find fairly accurate information on them. If something else pops up in my head today, I'll be sure to add it, but this is about it. Sundays are always slow for me, so... See ya~!
Saturday, December 12, 2009
Mother Russia ♥
With the help of my friend Curtis, I am going to educate you about the ways of Mother Russia.
♥ In Mother Russia, we have tundra. Therefore, we created Soviet program to make people as strong as trees. Now, everywhere in Russia, children are born with +30 to strength and endurance, and +80 resistance to cold.
♥ In Russia, sex is like knife fight. There is struggle, someone stabs, someone screams, there is movement, then someone passes out. Luckily, our women are gentle.
♥ Mother Russia invented percussion when we went to war with Nazi Germany. Our snare drummers carry extra magazines for solos.
♥in Mother Russia, you always had to be on guard. Arm bar is like handshake, and if the elbow breaks, it just means that someone likes you a little more than usual.
♥ I remember meeting my babushka, grandmother to you, and she told me, when you fall in love with young lady, or man as is becoming more popular, you have to be careful with heart. She said she had heart broken when she was in the service. Ever since then, I've made sure to carry around charcoal tablets just in case girlfriend slips strychnine in Valentine's present.
♥ Which leads me to old saying from old country. Russian woman in bed is like mortar grenade. It is best to lie down on and take hit for the mission, than to leave it armed and unnoticed.
♥ That's how my ded, or grandfather, met my babushka. She was friend of friend, and he decided to take hit for comrade. She put him in ankle lock, shattered knee, and they married in July.
♥ Lovely story, makes my babushka cry every time she tell it. Make ded laugh, as he says, she didn't shatter knee but just aggravated old war wound. But they still have xrays on fire place.
♥ I was small boy when I was younger, but my ochets, that is father to you, was worried, always worried. When I reached fourteen, I was dwarf compared to mine brother, Sacha. So, my ochets took me to see ded, and asked for potion from the old country to make boy into man. So, ded gave me thimble full of clear liquid, and told me to hold on tongue for 22 seconds and swallow. Now, as I hold liquid on tongue, my eyes start to water, and when he finally say I can swallow, my chest bursts into flame that they have to put out with snow from outside. My ochets turns and asks what was in potion, and my ded says, "Was vodka from when my ded was a boy. Distilled in Siberian winter of 1797."
♥ The next day, after I regain consciousness, I wake up 3 feet taller with slight mustache, and deeper voice. So, mine sister, she sees and asks mama, that is mother to you, for thimble full of potion as well. Mama replies, "Vodka turns boy into man, milaya. Puts hair on chest. For women, it puts hair other places, and you are not old enough. Now, go play." Father laughs and we eat supper.
♥ I find it crazy that in United States, you can have car chase with police. Everyone is so afraid to stop driver. In Russia, we have method to stop car chase. We call it sniper rifle.
♥ In Mother Russia, we have tundra. Therefore, we created Soviet program to make people as strong as trees. Now, everywhere in Russia, children are born with +30 to strength and endurance, and +80 resistance to cold.
♥ In Russia, sex is like knife fight. There is struggle, someone stabs, someone screams, there is movement, then someone passes out. Luckily, our women are gentle.
♥ Mother Russia invented percussion when we went to war with Nazi Germany. Our snare drummers carry extra magazines for solos.
♥in Mother Russia, you always had to be on guard. Arm bar is like handshake, and if the elbow breaks, it just means that someone likes you a little more than usual.
♥ I remember meeting my babushka, grandmother to you, and she told me, when you fall in love with young lady, or man as is becoming more popular, you have to be careful with heart. She said she had heart broken when she was in the service. Ever since then, I've made sure to carry around charcoal tablets just in case girlfriend slips strychnine in Valentine's present.
♥ Which leads me to old saying from old country. Russian woman in bed is like mortar grenade. It is best to lie down on and take hit for the mission, than to leave it armed and unnoticed.
♥ That's how my ded, or grandfather, met my babushka. She was friend of friend, and he decided to take hit for comrade. She put him in ankle lock, shattered knee, and they married in July.
♥ Lovely story, makes my babushka cry every time she tell it. Make ded laugh, as he says, she didn't shatter knee but just aggravated old war wound. But they still have xrays on fire place.
♥ I was small boy when I was younger, but my ochets, that is father to you, was worried, always worried. When I reached fourteen, I was dwarf compared to mine brother, Sacha. So, my ochets took me to see ded, and asked for potion from the old country to make boy into man. So, ded gave me thimble full of clear liquid, and told me to hold on tongue for 22 seconds and swallow. Now, as I hold liquid on tongue, my eyes start to water, and when he finally say I can swallow, my chest bursts into flame that they have to put out with snow from outside. My ochets turns and asks what was in potion, and my ded says, "Was vodka from when my ded was a boy. Distilled in Siberian winter of 1797."
♥ The next day, after I regain consciousness, I wake up 3 feet taller with slight mustache, and deeper voice. So, mine sister, she sees and asks mama, that is mother to you, for thimble full of potion as well. Mama replies, "Vodka turns boy into man, milaya. Puts hair on chest. For women, it puts hair other places, and you are not old enough. Now, go play." Father laughs and we eat supper.
♥ I find it crazy that in United States, you can have car chase with police. Everyone is so afraid to stop driver. In Russia, we have method to stop car chase. We call it sniper rifle.
Friday, December 11, 2009
The Electric Company~
Do you remember when you were young and you used to watch Sesame Street, and you memorized those little jingles about letter sounds and words? That's THE ELECTRIC COMPANY. The entire show. <3 Some of you will actually remember the old Electric Company, a series of shorts that worked in between half hour shows like commercials. It was pretty sweet. Now they've revamped the series and used a more upbeat mode for conveying their songs, often using popular music icons. Now I'm not one for mainstream music, but even I can say that I like most of the songs, even if they were done by people I don't like.
The show also has a plot, about kids with the power to create words from thin air, etc. (wiki it for details if you really want to know; I don't want to bore you. I like the show, but I'm sure some readers don't). It's amusing to watch, and I often sit with my sisters and watch it. But aside from the plot of the show, they still have the whole "shorts" thing going on, and they're really cool.
Here, have a look at some of the videos:
Yes, just so that you know, in that last video, that IS the "what about blowjobs" guy from collegehumor.
The show also has a plot, about kids with the power to create words from thin air, etc. (wiki it for details if you really want to know; I don't want to bore you. I like the show, but I'm sure some readers don't). It's amusing to watch, and I often sit with my sisters and watch it. But aside from the plot of the show, they still have the whole "shorts" thing going on, and they're really cool.
Here, have a look at some of the videos:
Yes, just so that you know, in that last video, that IS the "what about blowjobs" guy from collegehumor.
Thursday, December 10, 2009
RINDA, RINDA ♪♫♪♫♪
Yeah...so have you ever had that one friend that imitates something really badly? That just DOES IT WRONG?
Whenever you make a reference to something like that, be sure to sing "RINDA RINDA!" at the end. Example:
Person1: I'll do some Karaoke!
Person2: ...right.
Person1: *singing and murmurs off* um...I forget...
Person2: *points and laughs* RINDA RINDA~!
Person1: WTF are you talking about?
Person2: ...don't worry about it.
Wednesday, December 9, 2009
Michael Turner
Remembering Michael Turner
This is a link to an article in tribute to Michael Turner, a comic book artist who died in Summer 2008.
Why is he being featured in this article, you ask? Because he was very skilled and highly valued before and after his passing. While I'm not a veteran concerning comics, I was introduced to his art the same year that he passed away, and I feel cheated even to this day. Even if you are not a fan of American comics, Michael Turner definitely had a wonderful art style, and I would be more than happy to share some of his art with you all today. He was proof that American comic art could be breathtaking without having to revert to anime-esque styles, which aren't bad but are totally in a separate realm of art on their own.
He did art for both DC and Marvel (for those of you who aren't into comics, that means he did art for Superman AND The X-Men, to reference more famous characters/groups) and he was good at it. He even owned his own company that put out their own comics. As far as his work for DC and Marvel, he seemed to be somewhat selective about what he did art for. Most of the stories he's drawn I've enjoyed thoroughly, and I say most only to cover myself statistically.
I saw some images drawn by him on my computer today, followed by an uncanny sighting on facebook and viola! Blog subject. Feel free to look up more information about him and his art on Wikipedia, or just about any search engine will cough up tributes when you enter his name. He was spectacular. A close friend of mine met him in person. I wish I could have known him back then to have the experience.
Like I said earlier, I'll feature some of his art. Click on the preview to get the full view, as this blog cuts off some of the images because of the layout.
Tuesday, December 8, 2009
Web Design
I've design pages sometimes, and I just thought I would share a couple profile layouts. In any case, if you have some designs of yours to share, then show me~! I'd love to see them. Sorry this entry is so short, but I'm on the move! <3
~Ciao~
I want to ask you, if anyone's bothering to read--have you designed any webpages?
~Ciao~
I want to ask you, if anyone's bothering to read--have you designed any webpages?
Monday, December 7, 2009
Communication, people!
"Everyone, just try to be the best people you can be. Try to be understanding, try to be kindhearted even if someone is being mean, and make sure that you communicate openly. I repeat: MAKE SURE THAT YOU COMMUNICATE OPENLY. Be the better person--work to resolve your problems with other people. Don't just cover them up ...with insults. ♥ Go out there and do your best!"
This is a quote from my recent facebook status. Now, I won't go into details about what spawned this status--as it is a private matter between a friend of mine and I--but it made me really start to think about how people communicate with each other, which is an optimistic way of saying that people don't.
With all types of relationships--friendships, romantic involvement, business-related relationships, etc.--it makes things a lot easier to have a policy of open communication. It's possible to establish this by doing three things:
1. Communicating with yourself.
2. Communicating with others.
3. Being COMPLETELY honest about what numbers 1 and 2 actually mean, and deciding how to proceed with whatever situation there is from there.
I can honestly say that for some people, this is easier said than done. I realize that there are a lot of people who can't help some bad habits they have even if they try hard to break them, that some people have gone through a lot of situations that have left them feeling pessimistic/bitter/not sure about how to respond to other people, etc. Depending on what sort of background you have, even doing those three simple things can be a daunting task. What's important is that you look at what you've been given in a particular situation, and apply the three steps above the best way you can.
While I would like to say that this is good "romantic relationship" advice, I can't; this is advice for dealing with people. I can't stress how important it is to remember that no matter what your connection is to any other person, it is indeed a relationship of some kind. Even if you're just speaking about some homeless man on the street, you share a relationship with that person as strangers. It is for this reason that Karma exists, if you choose to believe in it--you can't just go around treating people as though they are less than people. And anyone reading this would do well to remember that when communicating with other people.
I can't tell you how many times I've been asked by friends for advice on how to approach someone on a "tender subject" of conversation. Follow the three steps above, and I assure you that you will have a definite answer as to what to do as your next plan of action. You may not like what you have to do, but you will know what you should. Whether or not you choose to actually commit yourself to that course of action is up to you.
Of course, there are all sorts of nuances you have to deal with concerning any of those steps. When communicating with yourself, you need to be honest about what your standards are from any given situation, what result you want the situation to have, what you will and aren't willing to tolerate from the people involved, and your course of action if either case occurs.
You need to know yourself very well as a person to answer all of the above, so if you don't have the answers for all of those sections, it's fine. This is something you learn as you meet people and proceed with different situations in life. Most people don't know what their standards really are for specific situations until they go through them. Some people think they know what their standards are, but when put into a situation, they change their minds. It's all about experience, and know what you're really capable of tolerating. Some people take on too much and others too little. You have to find balance.
When communicating with others, things get even more complicated. You should wait until you're calm enough to broach a subject with the other person to do it. If you know you're going to get upset, then you need to either relay to the other person that even though you might be upset, you still want to resolve the issue. That means that you're going to need to try your hardest to respectfully describe your feelings or position. If you feel that you're going to get so angry that you're going to lose sight of being respectful, then leave and let the other person know you want to speak later. This can be adjusted for similar but not identical situations.
Don't cover up how you feel for any reason. Whatever compromise you reach with another person won't be acceptable if they don't know all of the terms involved with the discussion. Even if it might hurt the other person's feelings, you have to be honest. That's the core of good communication: honesty. If you can't be honest with the person you're speaking to, then perhaps you should rethink whether or not you should be in such an involved relationship with that person in the first place.
Also, don't forget how the other person feels while all of this is going. While your feelings are important, there are two sides to every story, and it's always possible that they're feeling the same way, or that they're suffering from some issues that are causing the problem that you may have with them in the first place. Even if you're upset at another person, they still indeed are a person, so if you can't speak with them respectfully, then don't speak with them until you're ready.
Believe it or not, it's not always a good them to express how you feel exactly when you feel it. It's better to wait until after, when you've gone through a bit more of your day, done other things, and then contemplate whether or not it's a problem worth bringing up. Perhaps you were just overreacting? Maybe the other person didn't offend you on purpose. Maybe the other person was having a bad day, etc. You are the best person to decide the best action to take, but only when you're in your best state of mind. All angry words will get you is an argument and more misunderstanding.
If the other person gets angry in a discussion, don't let it turn into an argument. Either continue to speak calmly, or take a raincheck for later. The point of bringing a problem to someone's attention is to discuss it. If one person's not listening to what's being said, then it's no longer a discussion, and your points aren't being noted. Any real friend would at least listen to what's being said, regardless as to whether or not they agree with them. A sign of a good friend is definitely being able to tolerate different opinions and stances on issues. It's very important.
As long as you're honest with yourself about what you want, what you feel like saying and what you want to do--and you apply these in tactful ways--communication will become more and more easy. The key here is honesty with both yourself and the other person. Take the above steps and all of the inner thinking that goes with it, and a lot of your decisions will become more clear. Many of the decisions we make are weighed down with doubts and "maybes" and "what ifs" but you have to ultimately deal with what's in front of you, and it's not common that you'll be able to make the same decision twice. Make the choice that will make you happy. If you're not happy, how can you help anyone else feel the same?
This is a quote from my recent facebook status. Now, I won't go into details about what spawned this status--as it is a private matter between a friend of mine and I--but it made me really start to think about how people communicate with each other, which is an optimistic way of saying that people don't.
With all types of relationships--friendships, romantic involvement, business-related relationships, etc.--it makes things a lot easier to have a policy of open communication. It's possible to establish this by doing three things:
1. Communicating with yourself.
2. Communicating with others.
3. Being COMPLETELY honest about what numbers 1 and 2 actually mean, and deciding how to proceed with whatever situation there is from there.
I can honestly say that for some people, this is easier said than done. I realize that there are a lot of people who can't help some bad habits they have even if they try hard to break them, that some people have gone through a lot of situations that have left them feeling pessimistic/bitter/not sure about how to respond to other people, etc. Depending on what sort of background you have, even doing those three simple things can be a daunting task. What's important is that you look at what you've been given in a particular situation, and apply the three steps above the best way you can.
While I would like to say that this is good "romantic relationship" advice, I can't; this is advice for dealing with people. I can't stress how important it is to remember that no matter what your connection is to any other person, it is indeed a relationship of some kind. Even if you're just speaking about some homeless man on the street, you share a relationship with that person as strangers. It is for this reason that Karma exists, if you choose to believe in it--you can't just go around treating people as though they are less than people. And anyone reading this would do well to remember that when communicating with other people.
I can't tell you how many times I've been asked by friends for advice on how to approach someone on a "tender subject" of conversation. Follow the three steps above, and I assure you that you will have a definite answer as to what to do as your next plan of action. You may not like what you have to do, but you will know what you should. Whether or not you choose to actually commit yourself to that course of action is up to you.
Of course, there are all sorts of nuances you have to deal with concerning any of those steps. When communicating with yourself, you need to be honest about what your standards are from any given situation, what result you want the situation to have, what you will and aren't willing to tolerate from the people involved, and your course of action if either case occurs.
You need to know yourself very well as a person to answer all of the above, so if you don't have the answers for all of those sections, it's fine. This is something you learn as you meet people and proceed with different situations in life. Most people don't know what their standards really are for specific situations until they go through them. Some people think they know what their standards are, but when put into a situation, they change their minds. It's all about experience, and know what you're really capable of tolerating. Some people take on too much and others too little. You have to find balance.
When communicating with others, things get even more complicated. You should wait until you're calm enough to broach a subject with the other person to do it. If you know you're going to get upset, then you need to either relay to the other person that even though you might be upset, you still want to resolve the issue. That means that you're going to need to try your hardest to respectfully describe your feelings or position. If you feel that you're going to get so angry that you're going to lose sight of being respectful, then leave and let the other person know you want to speak later. This can be adjusted for similar but not identical situations.
Don't cover up how you feel for any reason. Whatever compromise you reach with another person won't be acceptable if they don't know all of the terms involved with the discussion. Even if it might hurt the other person's feelings, you have to be honest. That's the core of good communication: honesty. If you can't be honest with the person you're speaking to, then perhaps you should rethink whether or not you should be in such an involved relationship with that person in the first place.
Also, don't forget how the other person feels while all of this is going. While your feelings are important, there are two sides to every story, and it's always possible that they're feeling the same way, or that they're suffering from some issues that are causing the problem that you may have with them in the first place. Even if you're upset at another person, they still indeed are a person, so if you can't speak with them respectfully, then don't speak with them until you're ready.
Believe it or not, it's not always a good them to express how you feel exactly when you feel it. It's better to wait until after, when you've gone through a bit more of your day, done other things, and then contemplate whether or not it's a problem worth bringing up. Perhaps you were just overreacting? Maybe the other person didn't offend you on purpose. Maybe the other person was having a bad day, etc. You are the best person to decide the best action to take, but only when you're in your best state of mind. All angry words will get you is an argument and more misunderstanding.
If the other person gets angry in a discussion, don't let it turn into an argument. Either continue to speak calmly, or take a raincheck for later. The point of bringing a problem to someone's attention is to discuss it. If one person's not listening to what's being said, then it's no longer a discussion, and your points aren't being noted. Any real friend would at least listen to what's being said, regardless as to whether or not they agree with them. A sign of a good friend is definitely being able to tolerate different opinions and stances on issues. It's very important.
As long as you're honest with yourself about what you want, what you feel like saying and what you want to do--and you apply these in tactful ways--communication will become more and more easy. The key here is honesty with both yourself and the other person. Take the above steps and all of the inner thinking that goes with it, and a lot of your decisions will become more clear. Many of the decisions we make are weighed down with doubts and "maybes" and "what ifs" but you have to ultimately deal with what's in front of you, and it's not common that you'll be able to make the same decision twice. Make the choice that will make you happy. If you're not happy, how can you help anyone else feel the same?
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